Cyber Bullying – what we need to know
Being singled out and tormented via the internet is a very real and distressing. There is no target group, this happens to people from all groups. Due to the anonymity that the internet can provide, being bullied online can be relentless. There have been tragic reports of the effects caused by cyber bullying.
Bullying takes many forms so I am quoting here heavily from my child protection training from 15 years spent in a classroom and the massive amount of training we had on child protection and of course personal experience:
According to NoBullying.com, 52% of young people reported being cyber bullied and 25% said that the abuse was repeated bullying; one third of the victims were subjected to online threats. An astonishing 95% of teens reported witnessing online bullying and doing nothing about it. Only 1 in 6 parents were aware of the scope and intensity of online bullying. Please read the full report here in this excellent article: http://nobullying.com/cyber-bullying-statistics-2014/
The NSPCC reports that there were almost 26,000 counselling sessions last year regarding bullying – 7,296 of these counselling sessions were about online bullying and safety. Read more here: http://www.nspcc.org.uk/preventing-abuse/child-abuse-and-neglect/bullying-and-cyberbullying/what-is-bullying-cyberbullying/
The saddest statistic of all is that more than half of the young people surveyed never confided in their parents about the abuse.
So what can we do to help someone in this situation? If they open up a little and tell you a friend is experiencing a hard time, you could suggest they should find a teacher that they trust and go and discuss it with them, there is extensive training given to both primary and secondary schools on this issue and quite often your child may be working in a small group for part of the day with a Teaching Assistant; this may be a lot easier in that they have a less formal relationship with the TA and the TA has been trained on how to report any issue that the child may confide.
List available options for help, children will always choose which one feels like the safest personal choice for them. Recommend talking to family, friend’s parents if they don’t feel they can talk to their own, as long as they tell someone rather than keep it all bottled up inside. Let vulnerable people know that receiving abuse by email or having a post made about them on a public forum that contains abuse is classed as harassment. Try to get a copy of the offending text for evidence should it be needed. Don’t inflame the situation by responding in anger.
If you have children in school, go to speak to the head and present everything formally in writing so that there is a record of what is happening, having worked in a school myself I know that they are keen to stop behaviour like this very quickly and often have pastoral care to offer to the family and the victim of the bullying. If the victim has been severely affected emotionally, go and see your GP and they will assess which professional organisation is best placed to help. If you are having a hard time coping they will also make sure you have the support you need. It’s a situation where you can feel very alone and unable to help your child, it really can be quite devastating to read unpleasant, malicious words on a public platform. It is a criminal offence to make threats causing alarm and distress on the internet.
If the bullying is taking place in the workplace then choose a colleague you trust to talk it over with. If you feel comfortable approaching your employer then do so, if not and you feel you have nowhere to turn, take a record of the bullying to a specialist in this field. Make sure that there is a record on your personnel file that you have raised that there is an issue.
Most importantly, don’t suffer alone in silence there really is a lot of help on offer. Keep checking in to the Nybble blog and we will update you with all the latest information when relevant.
Posted by Jill Wells 27/10/15
Young Minds is a national charity committed to improving the emotional and mental wellbeing of all children and young adults under the age of 25. Visit them here: http://www.youngminds.org.uk/
Family Lives are always there to offer emotional support so if you feel talking things through with a trained support worker would be helpful do use their confidential helpline on 0808 800 2222. http://www.familylives.org.uk/advice/
Childline is superb for many issues that affect families visit their fantastic website here: http://www.childline.org.uk/pages/home.aspx
Readers from America may find this link useful: https://www.callersmart.com/guides/49/What-Is-Cyberbullying-and-How-to-Stop-It